We hold on to our feelings rather than the feelings holding on to us. Its like we hold on to our uncomfortable emotions and complain that we dont feel good.
Try asking yourself these three simple questions when you are faced with an unwanted emotion ... like fear....depression....anxiety....etc...
First identify what you are feeling right now.. whatever it is ...in this moment ....and then : Ask yourself :
1. Can I let it go ?
meaning : Can I just let this feeling drop off me ? Both yes and no are good answers. Even if your answer is no, trying these questions a few times will still help you drop the uncomfortable feeling.
2. Would I ?
meaning: Would I rather let this feeling drop and be free OR Would I hang on to it and feel miserable ? A kind of reminder that it is meaningless to hold on to something which we dont want and is not good for us.
3. When ?
i.e. Usually the answer is "now". This is just a prompt to let the emotion drop off right now....
Please dont get bogged by its simplicity... all good things in life are simple ! It in a very subtle way helps us to "look" at our feelings as something different from ourselves. ( Which they really are.. we are not our feelings. Its like saying: I "feel" hungry ...and not... I "am" hungry
This questioning process is popularly known as the Sedona Method ......
Regards,
Sajit
Sajit, your The Three Questions are positive energies and I would like to continue in the same flow by saying, Whenever there is something happening, there is always a reason for it (which we call, God's Wish), and all depends on oneself which side of it one is choosing to see it from? Thats the direction one drives it towards.
ReplyDeleteIf oneself feel angry, anguish or happy some time, this definitely is to bring out something good in oneself. The challenge is to understand WHAT ? and as soon as one concur it, ALL LOOKS POSITIVE. So gist is never let your feelings subside or go undiscovered by you, and create a practice within yourself to think WHAT IS THE PURPOSE OR GOD'S WISH HERE? I guess what am saying is also a part of meditation or yoga, and it takes time & effort to culture it. And all wise men do!